Nobody goes into marriage with their eyes wide open. If we do we would never get married. Most people just fall in love and say I do, without ever really taking into consideration what marriage entails!
Marriage should be carefully thought out, but, sadly it is more about the ring, the wedding planning, the cake, bridal gown, flowers, tuxedos, food, and the church to be married in. Seldom do we ever consider anything beyond the wedding and the glorious honeymoon!!! When the dust settles, and the blindfolds fall off, and boy do they fall off, we begin to see all of the flaws! Flaws, flaws, and more flaws!!!
When the hail storms come, along with the thunder, lightening, and the tornados, then most people are ready to throw in the towel and run to the divorce lawyer. What happened to, "for better and for worse"? What happened to, "in sickness and in health"? What happened to, "till death do us part"? Without fail the storms are going to come! God is going to allow our love walk to be tested, He is going to let our true colors surface.
Malachi 3: 2-3 declares, "But who can endure the day of His coming? And who can stand when He appears? For He is like a refiner's fire and like launderers soap. He will sit as a refiner, and a purifier of silver; He will purify the sons of Levi,and purge them as gold and silver, That they may offer to the Lord an offering in righteousness."
God's test comes, so that He may prove us, and perfect us, but we are so hasty to jump out of one fire, and into another one. The grass is not by any means greener on the other side of the hill, although it may seem. People believe divorce is always the easy and best way out, but that is a lie of Satan!!! Divorce brings on another fire, far worse than staying in your marriage. Especially when children are a part of the marriage.
Fire never feels good, but it is to our benefit to stand, and see the salvation of the Lord. If we will stand and pray God will fight for our marriage. God will intervene on our behalf, because He knows we do not wrestle against flesh and blood but against principalities, and powers of darkness. God will work everything for our good, if we stand still and know He is God. He will prepare a resting place for us. All we must do is walk by faith and believe Him. The battle is the Lord's, and victory belongs to Him.
God hates divorce, so in that sense, we know we will come out victorious. God loves us, He is all seeing and He is all knowing . His eye is upon us, and we are on the winning side. No matter how Satan tries to convince us we have lost, and that we should give up because it is over. It is not over, it is only a storm, a test. So hold on in the power of the Lord. Satan is the loser if we will but trust in God. He tells us to trust in the Lord with all of our heart!!!
Marriage is not what you can get, but what you can give to it. It is an investment. It is not taking, it is giving. Unity is more than a word, it is continually dying, and denying oneself, daily, hourly. It is recognizing your spouse as the important one moment by moment. God said, "love covers a multitude of sins." We must put their needs above our needs. First comes God, then our spouse. Prayer and fasting, and bible studying kills self. We will become selfless, and regard our spouse as God does.
Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you!!! Always, always put God first, and foremost!
Always, always love, for GOD IS LOVE!!!
My Prayer is that God will bless you and empower you to stand through the storms of marriage, that your marriage will blossom and flourish into a marriage made in heaven!!! God cannot and will not fail you!!! Your marriage is worth all the investment and effort, so hold onto it. Shun all thoughts of divorce. Remember why you fell in love and married your spouse. Rekindle your love, relight the fire, learn to enjoy one another. Marriage takes three, the Holy Spirit, The Husband, and the Wife!!! Be as one ,unified, standing together.
God bless you