It will surprise you to know that a lot of men beat up women or ladies either in a relationship or marriage. Often times this occurs because many men don't understand the nature of women.
1) Women are babyish in nature.They want to be pampered even if they are wrong in the act. Men should tell them that they are wrong calmly. Remember you are the leader. Lead her ,You are the head be ahead of her both in tolerance and patience.That does not mean you should not tell her that she is wrong when she is but gently influence her with your actions and not with your intimidation an brutality .
2) They are highly emotional. When they are angry they can cross the line to tell you anything.But remember she may be saying how she feels but not what she thinks. Don t judge her at that time or attack her .Allow her to calm down . When this occurs then two of you can think and sort things out. Watch out for the appropriate time to talk.
3)Nurture her emotion. Because they are very emotional appreciate her and tell her when she is beautifully dressed. If she is not correct in anything, tell her lovingly and turn to a joke not expensive one. Remember you are the bridegroom while she is the groom .Therefore you have to groom her .
4)Basic needs. you should try to provide some of her basic needs of life. I can remember a lady who abandoned her boyfriend after dating the boy for six years because the guy was not able to provide some of her basic needs of life. When I asked the lady why she did what she did, she said the guy was not giving her money for hair making. However this does not mean the lady or woman should not work to generate money for herself but she will be more joyful if complements what she generates from what she gets from her man. Women like somebody whom they can run to for help whenever the need arises. That is why they always seek a man who is trustworthy.
5)Tell her who you are early. Many men try to pretend when they meet a lady for the first time. They will try to be what they are not. Some men will tell lies in order to impress the lady. This is wrong.
It is worthy of note that ladies need security from any man whom they want to love deeply. They need emotional securit that is love. They need financial security that is the provision of basic needs which i mentioned earlier. And lastly, they need social security : that is they want to understand you and your family as I said ealier tell her who you are not lies just because you want take her to bed only. Life continues after that.
